Here comes another post about being Femme! I've been thinking a lot about what makes me Femme, and what defines me as Femme as opposed to straight girls who are feminine.
Is Femme a state of being, or a state of mind?
What exactly makes me Femme? Why do I identify as Femme?
To me, I think liking women is what seperates me as a femme as opposed to a feminine straight woman.
Maybe I'm wrong. I have no idea. :p
Why does it even matter what my label is? Why are people so obsessed with figuring out what category they belong in?
Is it because some people the LGBT community aren't sure who they are in the beginning? When they finally figure it out they're happy to know where they fit?
Is anyone ever just one thing though?
Most of the time I feel like I am femme. I love my heels and pretty dresses, I always straighten my hair and wear makeup. I don't wear any eye-shadow or lipstick or anything fancy, does that still make me Femme?
I tend to wear a lot of ripped jeans and rocker tees though too. I usually go back and forth between tomboyish and femmeish. So what does that make me? A tomboy Femme?
Urgg. There's too many labels, and classifications, and sub-classifications!
As I try to figure out myself and my sexuality, I can see how having a label to identify yourself can help. I read somewhere online that someone said labels don't have to be labels, they are simply identifiers.
I like that.
So maybe I should stop looking at it as a label, and see it as a identifier.
Hi, my name is Alice and I am a Bi tomboy femme?....
Hmm, that's a mouthful :p