So how do you and you SO fight?
Something I've been talking a lot about in therapy is how my husband and I fight. It's not good.
In any way.
Whenever conflict comes up between us, I usually just freeze up. I just shut down and can't function. I can't talk, or feel, or even barely breathe.
Not the most productive way to resolve things, but I can't help it.
It just makes my husband madder, is the problem. He wants to yell and scream if need be, fight it out till things are better. And I can't do that.
I kind if just fold into myself and go to that place inside of me where I'm safe and protected and I don't have to feel attacked. LE SIGH...
Usually that just infuriates my husband even more, so he gets madder and says and does mean things to try and break me out of my shell.
Obviously, that doesn't work, and doesn't do anything but send me deeper down into that hole inside of me to hide.
And one day, all the mean things that were said are gonna be all that's left.
The love will be gone. All the love in the world doesn't erase hurtful things said in a moment of anger.
I've told him that if he keeps doing that that one day all the love will be gone, and all that's left will be the horrible things he's said....
How do you Chicks fight with your SO?